Kellyjo Coney-Khan is Leading the Charge with a Neurobiological Approach to Therapy and Coaching
What is your area of expertise, who do you serve, and how do you serve them?
Our mission is to create the waves that ripple through the individual, their nuclear and extended family, their work and the society in which they live; to provide balance for their emotional, mental and physical ecosystems for future generations to come.
We do this with a neurobiological approach, combining the most substantial elements of coaching, therapy and neurobiology to build lives without limits. We do this by evolving emdr, a scientifically proven model to suit corporates, leaders, individuals and couples in Singapore to thrive in their work and personal lives. We call it EMDR 2.0!
You can call it coaching, treatment, therapy, reprocessing or neurobiology. What it isn’t – is a talking cure, it’s a structured framework that guides your brain to do the work it isn’t able to, so you can unlock that potential, all by itself and the celebrities are going gaga over it!
It heals, it rejuvenates and it enhances performance. Our clientele are working adults in major corporations, homemakers, corporate couples and leaders.
Helping people to be their best selves!
Why would someone choose you over a competitor?
Haha, I don’t even believe in competition per se! At tidylodge Healthcare our ethos is a collaborative hub of healing for Singapore and online.
Seriously though, word of mouth marketing speaks for itself, results from clients are what brings people to us. Exclamations of “WOW-How did you do that in 90 minutes” and “Everyone needs this!” are usually what leads to people discussing our methods with others and as one client said in their testimonial – “Once the expat community hears about you, this will spread like wildfire”. We serve locals and expats in Singapore, as well as people online globally.
Clients find us and then we watch them thrive in their work and personal lives, the best bit is usually their last session – Seeing that look in their eyes, what they might have thought would take them years to achieve, they’ve managed in much less time.
And… If we can’t help, we are currently structuring partnerships with businesses in line with our way of thinking so that no client goes without their GAP (Growth Action Plan) being filled!
Share a specific time you encountered an obstacle and describe how you overcame it.
Now I am literally ROFL – This would need to be a book.
I encounter obstacles every moment of the day, but that’s the buzz of it all right?! Some of them are Mount Everest and others Ben Nevis and occasionally they’re the size of the hill near my grandparent’s house in the UK.
Either way, it’s post-traumatic-growth, it’s resilience and it’s that never giving up, plodding through the emotions, naming and taming them as you go kinda attitude! No matter how many people criticize or look at you with those WTF eyes – You put on your big girl or big boy shoes and you strut along and you do it anyway.
When you listen to your gut, your intuition, your mind, your heart, whatever you want to call it, when you listen to that voice deep inside and you feed the right wolf, and you know what you are doing is for the greater good — always!
You fight and very often you end up fighting passively, without anyone knowing, except you, and most of all, you bloody well chuffing believe that you can at all costs.
So off the top of my head, I can’t think of an obstacle, because I’ve trained my brain to be so solution-oriented that obstacles have become opportunities, the law of attraction, the science of magnetically attracting what you think and feel have opened many doors and created many opportunities.
The most recent opportunity would be the 2.0 lockdown we are in at the moment, which means that we can go about in two’s and I can see two in person clients a day, the rest online. This was a great opportunity to grow tidylodge Healthcare, to work on creating more for our clients and finding innovative ways to help them and reach more people in 2022 with the help of a fantastic team.
Share a short story about your best (or favorite) case study.
Yikes, there’s too many, but I do love the ones who have tried everything then hear about what I do and after years of burnout we are able to get them from a position of exhaustion to thriving in their work and setting boundaries organically without having to teach or advise.
This is what makes this approach so unique, just by guiding the client’s brain and central nervous system in the right direction, unlocking the areas that were blocked so that they can enhance their performance and capabilities.
It is reprocessing what they already know but were unable to act on, to lead to significant behavioral change that flows and isn’t based on willpower, habit-changing or grueling moments of pushing oneself to the max.
What advice would you give the “20-Year-Old-You” who’s eager to start in life?
I’ve often wanted someone to ask me this question.
I’d probably say, stop partying, take care of your health and absorb as much learning as you can. Network till you drop, and if you ever get the opportunity to do any kind of mentorship, coaching, or therapy, do it without hesitation, you’ll learn a lot about yourself.
Set goals, but live in the moment. Know that it’s ok not to know everything, ask for help and remember to slow down.
Stay on the sideline of the rat race as an observationalist seeing what works and what doesn’t and then apply and execute your goals!
Please describe a monumental time in your life that you’ll never forget.
What first comes to mind is when I found out I’d got a first class honours, became valedictorian and won the Malcolm Crossland Award for Excellence at University and then landed a scholarship. I remember being told many times over that it would be impossible to even get a first doing a double degree, let alone all the other accolades.
However, after overcoming so many obstacles, I knew that there was more that was possible than impossible. Sat in this Boutique hotel in Singapore with my parents and I said “Mum, Dad, I’ve got a first”.
I’m not one for pushing achievement to the brink of being stressed out, I absolutely advocate for a balanced nervous system, but this really was one of those monumental moments for me.
Why, you ask? Well, I had failed high-school for the mere fact that I was just not into what was on the menu to study at the time.
I also don’t advocate for not doing well in high-school either, if you happen to read this and are at that age, but I do want to share, that it’s not the end of the world when something is out of your control.
Once I found my passion, I was on fire and I share this with you to show you that you can begin again at any point in your life, what seems like failure in a moment, is actually redirection.
As business magnate Elon Musk says “Failure is an option here. If things are not failing you are not innovating.” It is how we perceive and navigate through those moments that carries us to greatness.
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