Love Affair With Chronological Time

Creating flow in chaos

Did you know that I do not wear a watch? I own quite a few, just never wear one.

And yet, one of my dear friends recently described me as a woman “whose soul is in a deep love affair with chronological time. Dancing this beautiful and passionate tango where time is always on your side!”

I giggled at how poetic it sounded but it helped me realize how something that is just so obvious to others is so hard to see on our own.

And it reminded me of this saying, “What comes the easiest and most natural to you is what others are seeking and needing the most.”

I am a mystical strategist. With a very pragmatic outlook on the world. I am a former elite athlete. I am a business owner. I am a mom.

Time. Time management. Time mastery. 

It certainly is not something I even have to think about when I am making breakfast and pack lunches and get kids set up for school every morning.

The 3-8pm window that has so many home providers blowing out? I dance and float around our home with two kids, two large dogs, all the activities, all the cooking, all the business stuff… On my own most of the days.

And I still play with the kids.

And I still get to enjoy a glass of buttery Chardonnay and lavender-infused bath in candlelight and Women Who Run With Wolves book kind of a quiet time.

Oh, and if the pharmacy has a prescription ready at 9pm, I hop into my beloved car and go pick it up, even in a storm. Because why not?

It’s all flow. It’s all a flow in chaos. It’s what I do. So. Naturally.

Having more time and getting more done has very little to do with conventional wisdom like scheduling, time-batching, automation and outsourcing.

Time mastery actually begins with mindset and energy.

Want to live outrageously?

Feeling healthy, happy, and having more fun?

Start re-imagining and re-defining possibilities in new ways.

Here’s why:

We’ve indoctrinated into this belief that success needs to be hard.

That “busy” is productive.

That if it’s too easy or if we have too much fun then we are not doing it right.

Moreover, if we don’t collapse into bed at the end of the day then we don’t deserve it.

Here’s what I have learned in 25+ years as a high-achieving woman:

When we are in our zone, in our brilliance, it’s supposed to be easy!

What is hard is to actually get out of our own way, to shatter self-imposed ceilings, to reprogram our limiting beliefs, to break self-sabotaging patterns. For some, that means to simply rest. 

Resting is hard! Receiving is hard for some!

Discernment of what to say, what to do (and it’s timing, sequencing) that will move us forward on the path of least resistance therefore requires mindset mastery, and healing of the wounds.

(What wounds? The same ones that have you believe that your worth is somehow measured in numbers on a scoreboard, stopwatch, scale, bank account, and only earned through self-sacrificing and self-depreciation. For starters.)

So if you really want to create a sustainable change, to experience more harmony, this is where you start.

A client came to me because they wanted to be able to do more of what matters to them (and actually love doing it), but they were stressed out & stuck in soul-sucking commitments.

The more successful they were becoming, the more chaotic their life had been. Even though they had it all designed and mapped out, they were unable to say “no” new opportunities, invitations, commitments. And just like that, they went from being in command of their life to being just another figure in it.

Creating flow in chaos starts within.

Do you believe that you could put hours back into your daily schedule just by re-imagining the possible in new ways, by changing the narratives, and by removing friction points that deplete your energy?

Because you sure can!

One way is simply by pulling out a whiteboard, colorful markers, and your order of priorities to start mapping out a system that works for you on autopilot – at home, at work, in life!

Actually implementing it all successfully can sometimes require making changes to your prices. It might require you to learn your husband’s love language. Understanding your Natal Chart. 

I offer that you stop trying to be the kind of a mom your mom was and finally start embracing being you.

And it has been my experience that this is actually just a beginning – because once you get a taste of your primal power, you will want more.